Self Discovery Resources: Learn About Yourself & Learn to Thrive

​While going through the phases to get back to a life you are excited about you may need some tools to get you there.

​Below are some books and other resources I recommend you check out!

​Mental Health

Do not take your mental health lightly. Doing the work of learning about yourself can bring up issues that need professional help.

It does not mean you are weak if you seek help. In fact it means you are strong. Working on yourself is not easy. Most people bury their emotions and keep moving forward. Don't be one of those people!

Here are some links to help you find a therapist to help you.

​Tools to Help You Heal

​There are many different ways for you to find relief ​from the stuff you uncover.​ I have spent years trying different ways to make progress faster so I don't have to make the same mistakes!  Here are some of the ​self discovery resources I have used and thought were beneficial.

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    ​Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT or tapping)  - this one paired with journaling has had the most impact on my progress through my divorce and loving myself.  It helps you release the emotions and replace them with new positive  thoughts and beliefs. Learn more about how it works here: The Tapping Solution
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    ​Harmonic Breath work - before I first did this, I was unsure, in fact downright skeptical. However, after two sessions I was hooked. It is an ancient form of breathing that has you utilize two in breaths and one exhale. You do this for a minimum of seven minutes. There are not very many teachers, but if you find a good one it is worth it! (If you are in Dallas I recommend ​Jane Aire Baldwin for breath work sessions.)
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    ​Guided Meditations - finding the right guided meditation will help you clear your past hurts and even help you discover some.  I use the app called Insight that has guided meditations and also a timer for quiet meditation. Guided meditations are the best way to get your mind to calm down!


 ​Reading is a great way to learn not only more about yourself, but those around you and ways to heal. The following are books I highly recommend you read. ​

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    ​​The Four Agreements - This book has four "rules" to live by. I consider myself a student of this book and am amazed that no matter how many times I read it I learn something new. I now keep it on the table where I journal. I will pull quotes from the book and journal about what those mean and how to apply them to my life.
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    The Four Agreements Companion - This second book that helps you process the original book is well worth the money. When you are confused about how to apply the Four Agreements, this one helps you figure it out.
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    Dealing with the Crazy Makers In Your Life - this book opened my eyes to how others create drama and problems for those around them. After reading this I finally had words I could put to how some people made me feel. And why I had allowed it for so long!
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    Boundaries - this is a must read for almost everyone. It will help you ensure your needs are being met while at the same time ensuring you are not taking advantage of others. As a recovering compliant, this book has saved me many times. (You will learn what a compliant is in the book!)
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    Radical Forgiveness - I read and research a lot on forgiveness. It was not until I read this book that I had a major break thorough in forgiving people in my life. (You can learn more  about my forgiveness tools in this blog post on Forgiveness.)
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    Extreme Ownership - I know this is a business book on leadership, but it can be applied to every part of your life. It shifted my view on how I dealt with the Crazy Makers in my life! Consider it a win to read for your personal and professional life.

​Body Work

You many have heard people refer to muscle memory before. While it does include your muscles remembering what to do, it also refers to when our bodies hold on to ​the emotions we experience.

When you have an emotion your body releases peptides that go through the entire body and attach to different receptors. Your body then holds these emotions where ever they attach.

By processing your emotions and doing body work you can release those old hurts form all levels of your body.

Below are some of my favorite body work practices.

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    ​​Yoga - yes yoga is a great way to release your emotions. It was designed to help people prepare for meditation and spiritual e​volution. When done on a regular basis you can release pent up emotions. In fact many have experienced crying in yoga and this is why.
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    ​​Myo-Fascial Release - Myofascial is the connective tissue running through out your body. You can utilize a release technique to release emotions and pain that are stuck in this tissue. Many massage therapists and physical therapists are trained in this.
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    ​​Chiropractic - ​this is a great way to release tension and emotions. If you find a chiropractor trained in Neuro-Emotional Technique even better! This site can help you find a practitioner in your area: NetMindBody.


 ​Here are a variety of different things that I have found helpful over the years of ​learning about me!

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    ​Heal Documentary - ​ Stress has a major impact on our physical health. I highly recommend renting this movie. It does a fantastic job of explaining why sometimes western medicine simply does not have the answers. What I have spent years researching, this movie covers in an hour and 45 minutes.
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    ​​Jocko Podcast - I discovered Jocko and his podcast during a particularly rough time. I was struggling to get the basics in that I loved, like my workout. For me, Jocko's "tough love" with reason was exactly what I needed. The episodes are long, but I try and listen to at least a few minutes a day to keep me on track. (This is also one of the co-authors of Extreme Ownership which I recommend above.)

 ​** Some of these links are affiliate links. This means I may get a bit of money if you buy from them. This does not cost you extra money. I also do not recommend something that I have not already tried. Please let me know if you ever have any questions.***